About Regina Gelfo, MA

I build intimacy the way
I built interfaces.

Clear. Human. Trainable. Nervous-system tested.

For over twenty years, I worked in tech and media design. I learned how to take complex systems and make them usable. I learned how to build experiences that change human behavior.

I designed for companies like Viz Media and Current TV, and my UX work was reviewed in The New York Times.

Then I took that same systems-thinking brain and applied it to the one domain most people treat like a mystery: intimacy.

Intimacy isn't magic. It's a skill set. It can be broken down, taught, and mastered. You just need to update your internal OS.

Regina Gelfo

I stopped accepting "insight" as the finish line

I earned my M.A. in Integrative Health Studies because I knew real change required more than talk. It required the body, the nervous system, and the spirit.

My research on singing in community as an intervention for depression led me to 5 years of training in Indigenous African Spiritual Technologies. I saw deeper healing around a fire than in most clinics. I've sat in hundreds of medicine ceremonies and years of tantric study.

I witnessed what happens when the nervous system is met through resonance, safety, and the right kind of touch.

Many of my clients are brilliant, successful, and resourced. Yet they remain lonely, touch-starved, and stuck in patterns they can explain perfectly but cannot change.

That's not a character flaw. That's a nervous system loop. And you can't "think" your way out of it.

What I trained in, and why it matters

Real change is rarely one-dimensional.

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Somatic & Relational

  • Hakomi Mindfulness Based Therapy
  • Process-Oriented Psychotherapy (Arnie Mindell)
  • Somatica Experiential Intimacy Coaching
  • Attachment work
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Tantra & Energy

  • Neo-tantra (Layla Martin)
  • Kundalini Yoga & Meditation
  • Qi Gong, Reiki, Energy Healing
  • Womb & Cycle Wisdom
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Shamanic & Ritual

  • Training & Rituals with Dr. Malidoma Somé & Sobonfu Somé
  • Sat in over 20 indigenous-inspired medicine ceremonies
  • Grief, initiation & belonging
  • Vision Quest & Rites of Passage
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Sound & Expression

  • Sound, Voice & Music Healing (Silvia Nakkach)
  • Sound Healing (Tom Kenyon)
  • Internship – Music Therapy for Dementia Care (AgeSong SF)
  • Rap & Freestyle Vocal Arts
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Psychedelic Neuroplasticity

  • Mindbloom Ketamine Guide
  • Integration coaching
  • Somatic regulation
  • Entrenched pattern softening
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Containment & Power

  • MistressClass Dominatrix School
  • Consent as a living practice
  • Authority without aggression
  • Attunement under intensity

"People do not change because they understand. They change because they experience something new often enough for it to become true."

My special sauce

Intimacy taught like code, held like devotion

This is why my practice is hard to copy.

I break down seduction, touch, polarity, and repair like I'm writing software. Because for the analytical mind, clarity is safety.

You want the mechanics:

  • what to track
  • how to adjust
  • how to practice
  • how to repair
  • embodied confidence

I teach this inside experiences that actually rewire you. The body learns through repetition, safety, and truth.

Regina

Where this becomes
more than coaching

Voice work. Music. Writing. Ritual. Retreats.

Creativity and intimacy come from the same source. Free one, and the other follows.

Whether you're building a company, a book, a body, or a legacy — we use every tool to clear the channel.

"My work is for the man ready to stop living like a brilliant ghost.

And start living like someone who can receive love, attention, and belonging without needing to earn it."

If you're considering working with me...

You don't need to be perfect.

You do need to be honest. You need to be resourced enough to engage responsibly. You need to be willing to practice.

If that's you, I'd love to meet you.

Request a private consult

Credentials and Training

A synthesis of lineage and expertise

Education

  • M.A., Integrative Health Studies, CIIS
  • Dissertation: Singing in Community as an Intervention for Healing Depression
  • B.A., Visual Arts and Gender Studies, New College of Florida

Tech & Design

  • 24+ years in web, UX/UI, and media design
  • Designed for Viz Media and Current TV
  • UX work reviewed in The New York Times

Somatic & Relational

  • Somatica experiential intimacy coaching
  • Hakomi
  • Process-Oriented Psychology (Mindell)
  • Attachment-informed relational work

Psychedelic Work

  • Mindbloom: Ketamine therapy guide
  • Integration coach (Somatic & Relational)

Tantra & Energy

  • Neo-tantra and polarity practices
  • Kundalini yoga and qi gong instruction
  • Subtle-body attunement and energy work

Ritual Lineages

  • Training with Dr. Malidoma Somé
  • Training with Sobonfu Somé

Voice & Creative

  • Silvia Nakkach, Tom Kenyon, Lauren Arrow
  • AgeSong Internship: Music for dementia

Power & Consent

  • MistressClass Dominatrix School
"I launched my podcast, began my book, and most surprisingly—I found community. I had no idea how bored & lonely I'd been, until I felt what it was like to be this inspired & connected."
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